This isn’t where you expected to be at this point in your life. In the midst of all the decisions and plans that you have to make, you are also making sense of what happened in your marriage and the storm of emotions that comes along with it. You feel like you are living in an alternate reality from everyone else as you stare at all the broken pieces of your life. Each day you encounter more changes to what used to be a predictable and expected routine. You have awkward conversations with friends and family that don’t get it, but want to be supportive.
You have to face yourself every day and ask yourself if this was the right decision. And if it is, why is it still so damn hard?
Going through a divorce is like a crazy roller coaster ride. Just when you think it is almost over, it accelerates and tosses you around all over agin. It peels back all the layers of what you thought you knew about yourself and about your life.
You don’t have to squeeze your eyes shut and just wait for it to be over.
Therapy can help by giving you a safe space to process and explore your feelings and tools for staying grounded through all the changes. As with most transitions in life, this is also a time for reflection and growth as you work on finding closure to the past and begin to write the next chapter in your story.
Mindful Soul offers individual counseling to women going through separation or divorce as well as the Untying the Knot group, a supportive and therapeutic group for women experiencing and healing from divorce.
“For a seed to achieve its greatest expression, it must come completely undone. The shell cracks, its insides come out, and everything changes. To someone who doesn’t understand growth, it would look like complete destruction.”