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As the new year begins, we often contemplate the changes we want to make in the year ahead. We examine what feels out of sync, out of “balance.” Sometimes this process can be exhilirating as we imagine rewarding changes and possibilities. Other times this process can feel overwhelming or discouraging if we are stuck in judging our past choices and behaviors. Here is my caution: Balance is not perfect. By definition, yes, it is an equal distribution of weight, is it not? But in reality, balance CAN be a fluid thing, a thing that moves and adjusts. When I think of this, I think of being in yoga class– moving from posture to posture, my weight will not appear equally distributed (think of tree pose and standing on one foot), yet, somehow I can still hold myself up. Life is full of fluctuation. So maybe my goal is to exercise more or to spend more time with my family and less time working. These are great goals! But I approach them realistically and with compassion for myself. Judging the days when I have to make adjustments as “failing” will not help me reach my goals. The ability to keep shifting, to move despite obstacles, to flow from one position to another (even if it is not as graceful as we hope). . . that just might be the point now, isn’t it?